The separation is official and divorce proceedings are underway (or not). Filled with rage, anger and determination it’s time to start getting your life in order. What are you going to do?

Get your Ms. Jackson on and get in CONTROL.

Step 1. What are your finances? Aside from the emotional toll of separating from your significant other, financial stress is by far the 2^ndhighest anxiety inducing moment of the entire process.

How am I going to pay…? Do I even have a salary? What is it? What am I qualified to do? I need more money, now!

Grab a seat, pen & paper or your computer and break it all down. Simply list anything you can think of.  List what and how much you owe.

Setting your Foundation List: Take some time to list each and everything thing you can think of that you owe money. That’s all – make the list. Take a breath, a sip or a puff and write all the amounts owed next to each item.

Where do you stand? You’re still standing? Good for you. I don’t know about you but this gave me peace of mind. This was incredibly overwhelming, but it gave me direction and I started to develop a plan. There were plenty of tears and anxiety attacks, but I was constructing my path and future –my way.

Clarity is key. This is the moment when you start to see the trees within the forest. Take a deep breath. You’re on your way to greener pastures.

Whatever the amount, don’t panic. Start planning. Start taking Action. It’s time to start a budget.

We generate fears while we sit. We overcome them by action.

-Dr. Henry Link